You hear it all the time from the mouths of Christians…..

God is in control

But do we really understand what that entails? We must allow Him to have the control for Him to have it. We have to say, “God, I entrust this situation into your hands. You do with me and it as you will.”

A friend of mine put it this way….

God does NOT control…..He will not push his will on anyone. If he’s in control than why does he ask us to pray??? He partners with us, we have to submit to his love & work with him. We have to surrender to him & listen to the Holy Spirit and pray or do what he says. God will not dispatch his angels until we pray and ask. He is a gentleman and will not force His way. We are not puppets to him, we are his children whom he gave freedom of choice. Children He longs to have a relationship with him if we are willing.

We have to be willing to let Him in if we want Him to heal our hurts; to mend our hearts. If we don’t pray and ask, we are not inviting Him into our situation.

John 16:23-24(HCSB) says:

²³ In that day you will not ask Me anything. “I assure you: Anything you ask the Father in My name, He will give you.²⁴ Until now you have asked for nothing in My name. Ask and you will receive, so that your joy may be complete.

Someone asked me once how I could be so cool when it looked like my marriage was going to fall apart. My answer was simple, “I gave it to God. My husband is His child first and my husband second. Me worrying about him and trying to control him will only pull the power to move in my husband’s life from God’s hands. I have to have faith and trust that God will do what He said He would.”

When I was younger, my mom gave me this analogy.

A little girl has a doll that she love more than any of her other toys. SHe sleeps with it, eats with it, takes it outside to play, and even has it near the bath tub whie she bathes. While playing with the doll on day, an arm breaks off. Completely distraught, she takes the doll to her daddy.
“Daddy,” she cries and she approaches him. “Fix it?”
He agrees and reaches of the doll but she refuses to let go of it.
Frustrated at her daddy’s lack of ability to fix the doll while she holds on to the precious toy, she stomps her foot and demands he fixes the toy.
“Sweetie, I can’t fix it if you hold on to the doll. Hand it to me so I can fix it.”
Finally, she releases the doll and he goes to work fixing it.
Sadly, the little girl grows impatient as most children do, and jerks the doll from his hands, in turn damaging the toy even more.
“You didn’t fix it, daddy. It’s worse now.”
“I can’t fix it right if you pull it from my hands. You have to trust me to fix the toy and you have to give me time to do it. Now the sooner you let go, the sooner I can get to making it better.”
She hands him back the doll and waits while he replaces the arm and restores the doll to a like new condition.

We can’t hold on to our hurts and then expect God to heal them. We can’t say, “God, help me to forgive him for what he did to me” then feel sorry for yourself for the wrong that was done to you. You’re still holding on to the pain that event brought you. When you give God complete control, you hand it all over to Him – the event, the pain, the brokenness, and the shame. If you happen to have a moment that Satan brings that even to mind, Remind him that you gave it to God your Father and you choose to forgive and NOT to wallow in self-pity and shame. You choose to live the way God commands and trust Him with your life. In time, you will be able to tell your story without the twinge of pain.

You are a child of God and like any loving earthly father, He wants to help us in our struggles. All it takes is asking.